Positive Thinking Works! How the Words You Say Dictate Your Success
Back when I was first starting out, I read a lot of books that told me how to be successful. I loved reading those lessons from people who had become ultra-successful, because they gave me hope, and when you’re working three jobs and going to night classes in Jersey, hope can be rare. And when you’re almost out of hope, it’s hard to include positive thinking into your daily routine.
I read books on the art of the sale, on cold-calling, on keeping track of leads, networking, and other marketing strategies.
I devoured books on public speaking, financial and wealth management, business management, closing the deal, interviewing and getting hired, collaboration, and running a business.
But there’s one thing that those tomes didn’t teach me.
They didn’t teach me how to think.
Sure, they taught lessons on what you need to know to be successful in business; however, before you can master any skill or become an expert in any field, there is one thing that you must be able and willing to do: deliberately choose the words you use when you talk to yourself, and then listen and act upon them.
Let me say that again.
Deliberately choose the words you use when you talk to yourself. Then, act upon them.
Start Paying Attention to What that Inner Voice is Saying
Regardless of what others might say, talking to yourself doesn’t make you crazy. It makes you normal. I mean, let’s face it – we all go about our day with an inner dialogue playing in the background, like a never-ending soundtrack.
Now, let me ask you this: if you were forced to listen to an album all day long, would you choose one that you didn’t like?
Of course you wouldn’t! That really would be crazy, right?
You’d probably choose your favorite recording – you know the one – when you hear it you feel energized, happy, rejuvenated, alive.
Now, stop for a moment and think about your inner voice in relation to your favorite album. Your voice is with you all day, every day. But is it serving you, or holding you back? Does it make you feel energized, or depressed?
You may not be sure how to answer this, so here’s a little quiz. Please take a few moments to truly think about your answers. You might want to write them down for future reference.
1. When you wake up in the morning, what are the things that you usually say to yourself?
2. When you anticipate working for the day, what thoughts come to mind?
3. What do you say to yourself when you think about the future?
4. Would you consider yourself successful?
5. If you were to describe yourself, what would you say?
Examine Your Answers: Negative or Positive?
Take a moment to examine any commonalities in your answers. Were they mostly positive, or negative? Did the answers make you feel good, or bad? I know that may sound simplistic, but that’s the way that the power of Inner Dialogue works.
What you say affects how you feel, and how you feel dictates what you do. What you do determines your productivity during the day, and how you perform daily determines your ultimate success.
Simply put – thoughts are real, and they matter.
If your thoughts were negative, now’s the time to rewrite the dialogue. For instance, there are a lot of people who wake up each morning dreading the day. Because they are in that place of negativity, the inner voice feeds the bad feelings, making them grow exponentially.
Rewrite Your Inner Dialogue
Go back to the answer you wrote for question #1. If it was negative, how could you rewrite it with a positive slant? If you are struggling with this one, think about this: every day above ground is a good day. It’s good to be alive! That’s a starting point. I like to wake up and feel grateful for everything I have at the moment, especially my life. When you stop to appreciate what you have, what you do not have fades away.
Simply put, if you do not pay it any attention, it will lose its power.
Now, take a look at your other answers. How can you rewrite them to reflect a new, positive tone?
Put the New Script into Daily Action: Practice, Practice, Practice.
After you have rewritten your inner dialogue, the hard part begins. Now you must practice what you’ve written. And not just once. They say that it takes about 21 days to make or break a habit. For three weeks, commit to carefully monitoring what you allow yourself to think.
Sure, we all get caught up in negativity sometimes – it’s impossible to avoid. But the way you handle the appearance of those thoughts can change everything that happens in your day.
The next time you start to hear a little negativity in your mind, yell at it! Fight it off. Do not allow it to become into existence. I promise, you’ll start to notice amazing results.